Do you really know who you 'love?'

 

I need to say this. A murder/suicide happened b/tween a man and woman I went to school with. Not close friends in any way, but this is a small town. 

Everyone commented on how 'in love' they seemed to be. Married five years, travel, she was a business owner, homeowner; looked liked they had it all going on. From the outside looking in.

Then que the ugly 'bad music' that comes with every TV show that covers this type of thing. When the narrator's voice takes on the sinister sound of bad news.

Who knows what went on in their home that caused this damn to break. Word said she wanted him gone for whatever reasons. She'd had enough and sounded like that was too much for him to handle.

I know this experience first hand. When 'your person' doesn't give you the respect, love, support & nurturing you need. That's a red flag. 🚩. When your accomplishments aren't recognized but are belittled w/jealousy, that's a 2nd red flag 🚩. When everything becomes a competition, that's a 3rd red flag 🚩.So many more 🚩's that everyone reading this can add to.

The first time this type of marital suicide happened was many years ago when I was younger. A man killed his wife, then shot himself to cover it up. Mind was blown. Then the 'Lacy Petersen' tragedy & countless others @ the hands of domestic violence. People can create total lives with children, supposed 'love', trust, etc., then a life can be snuffed out in a blink because of an emotion?

I researched this: "As a criminal psychologist, I have examined and reported upon many offenders who have killed their partners and it is clear that they possess a number of common, persistent personality traits.  Inevitably, despite their bravado, they are inadequate men, with fragile egos."

To that end, now that I am newly alone after a 30+ year relationship that had me guessing at times, I thank God I am free. I will N-E-V-E-R let another person live in my home causing me to put my peace on hold. Never again interrupt my sanctuary. Never again talk down or belittle me. Never again have to answer to anyone but God. Never again allow myself to be so bruised.

Be safe. Be aware. When the smallest of 🚩's appear. Act. Pray for guidance & protect your peace & space. And your life. No 'love' is worth it.